Dear OK Chick,
I am a fairly new dedicated follower to your blog. I have found it to be a nice break during the day to read your “ramblings”, or read about “The perfect purse”. Reading your witty thoughts, or stories about your blind dates, and even what the cooking lady brought to eat can have me cracking up in my office, and leaving my poor co-worker wondering what on earth I am reading.
Last week you posted a letter from one of your loyal followers and it triggered something in me to ask you for your help/opinion as well. You have such an insight to people, a talent of match making, and you dating advise… priceless!!
So here’s the story… We (me and a new guy) started talking/hanging out a little over a month ago. So far things have been going good. He is what we all want to have… a guy who will give you your space and not make you feel smothered. I will get random text during the day to see how my day at work is going, sometimes a call in the evening to say hi and check on how I am doing (but not a lot of text and not a phone call every day). We don’t hang out during the week, just talk. On the weekends we have been hanging out Friday and Saturday night, sometimes just the two of us other times with our friends. The reason I am writing is because I am confused on whether or not he is into me. We all know the book “He’s just not that into you” (if you don’t I suggest you read – I vouch OK Chick will agree with me).
Because of the fact I hear from him at least once a day makes me think “He is into me”, but since we don’t see each other during the week leads me to the rule… He’s just not that into you if he doesn’t make time for you. So I would love to hear your opinion.
I just want to lay an important note out. I am not the one that texts first, it’s him.
Completely Confused (CC)!!
Thank you for the wonderful comments. I'm so happy you enjoy my Ramblings and other antidotes on life. I realize most of the stuff I post on this blog is unimportant, but I see my main goal for the blog, to make people laugh/smile, is fulfilled.
Alright CC, let's get down to business. You have a classic problem: Does he like me, or does he think I'm just a cool girl? I see it all the time. The fact that he's been consistent with his text messaging and calling is a pretty good sign. However, I do find it odd that you have not gone on a date. Well, I'm assuming you have not gone on a date, since you did not mention it in your letter. I am fully aware that now days there is a "hanging out" period for a couple. This is usually a time when couples see if they would like to go on a date with the other person. It sounds like you are in the "hanging out" stage, which is good. But it has been my experience that the "hanging out" period is usually only a few weeks. Most of the time, people can decide if they want to pursue anything after a few times of hanging out. CC, I do not understand why this "hanging out" period has been going on for a month or longer?
I believe my Matchmaking Hero Patti, from Millionaire Matchmaker, would totally pitch this guy to the curb. She would not put up with a guy hanging out with a girl whenever he felt like hanging out. No sir, Patti would make the man either shape up or ship out! And by shape up I'm talking, a date that involves fine food. Now, fine food for me is 4 star restaurant, but that's just me; and I'm single so take that however you want. But I do stand by the fact that you need to go on a real date. I'm talking an old fashion date; he picks you up, gives you flowers, pays for dinner, and then takes you roller skating. If he's not willing to take you on a date, then you need to move on sister. Tell him to hit the road, and tell him not to come back NO MORE, NO MORE, NO MORE, NO MORE, NO MORE...ummm you get the picture.
CC, I hope this helps you. But to be on the safe side, since I have basically zero experience in dating, we'll ask Blogger World. Folks, please help CC on this issue. And no CC is not me!