Sometimes readers send me an email asking for my advice. I guess they sense that I know a thing or two about life, and feel that I can offer a solid response that will help them. Sometimes the question is over healthy eating, and sometimes the question is over matters of the heart. Ok fine! So maybe The Cousin is the only reader who sends me an email asking for my help. But either way, The Cousin is a reader and is asking my opinion; which is why I’m posting my first (and maybe last) ever- Dear OK Chick…..
Dear OK Chick,
My friend recently met a young man over the internet. After three months of phone calls and visits, they decided to move in together and get married. After he moved in with my friend, I started hearing stories about this guy. For instance, his car was broken, which meant he had to use my friends. He is on parole, and he couldn't legally get a job until they get married.
Recently my friend and this guy were married. At the wedding he had no family or friends attend. Not even his mom. OK Chick, my question is there something missing here??!! Would you not be skeptic about this guy? What do you do in this situation?
Dear The Cousin,
Thank you for the email. Ok, what would I do in this situation? Well, I’m all for people changing their lives and making a better live for themselves. Maybe this guy needs positive vibes to reach his full potential. He could be a wonderful man that hit some bad luck. This marriage might just be the thing he needs.
But on the other hand, as a friend you cannot sit back and not voice your concern. I would confront your friend. Have you tried telling her that the man she loves is a loser? If not, start there. I’m reminded of a movie that was recently on Lifetime. The movie was about abusive boyfriends. Candice Cameron was in the movie and she was getting beat up by her boyfriend, he was played that Wonder Years guy. All her friends knew that he was hitting her; but her friends looked the other way. And you know what happen? She died. She got beat to death, by that Wonder Years guy. You need to voice your opinion so your friend does not end up like Candice Cameron and a Lifetime Movie. Honey, if your friend is dating someone like this, she might have a few screws loose and not realized what she hasn’t gotten herself into- unless this friend is you? Cousin, this better not be you! If I get invited to a wedding where the groom is a wacked out parole loser so help me I will beat you with a stupid stick! But if this isn’t you, I suggest you talk to your friend about her marriage. Good luck!