Thursday, May 22, 2008

A post stolen from Sarah

The other day I discovered my friend Sarah's blog. She's been added to my list of daily blogs I read. She's a great writer and she's stinkin' funny. I know...I say that about everyone. But to prove her wit, I'm stealing her post from yesterday. Is that ok? Is there some blog law I'm breaking by doing this? Surely not.

Your Friend Who Is A Boy Is Not Your Boyfriend

I don't think I have a single female friend in my life who hasn't had a visit from the Maybe Man. Sometimes he lasts a few months, sometimes he stays for years. But no matter the length of his stay, I've come to view the Maybe Man as a rite of passage for today's woman.

Now who is this Maybe Man, you ask? Actually, I think 90% of you know exactly who is he is. But for you other 10% (you lucky, lucky 10%), I'll explain. The Maybe Man is that guy in your life who always seems to be dancing along that friendship/something more line but can never quite decide where he wants to land. Some days you're convinced he's more than a friend, some days you aren't. Sometimes he acts like a jealous boyfriend, sometimes he could care less if you are still on the planet. He's the guy in your life about whom you are never sure how you feel because you're too busy trying to figure out how he feels about you.

The problem with Maybe Men is that they are almost always good guys at heart (at least today I think they are, tomorrow I just might think they are Satan's toadies) who just can't seem to get their act together when it comes to one woman: you.

And the absolute worst part about it is that because nothing is ever said directly (really, what would you say? “I know you must like me because you've called me every night this week!), so you are never quite sure if it was all in your head.


TC said...


So... I'm not laughing because she's spot on. I mean, holy crap, did she crawl inside my head sometime and analyze me when I didn't realize it?!?! Dang!

Renee said...

I had a maybeman once. It was a long time ago, (highschool) and each year he would write almost the same thing in my yearbook "sorry that things just didn't turn out like you wanted them to..." :rolleyes:

See the "relationship" would go like...we're just friends, then he would think we might be maybe more but by the time I realized he felt that that way he had changed his mind.

We went out a few times, but it just didn't ever happen. I saw him again about 5 years after he graduated...he had been married and divorced, had gained a ton of weight and was working in a clothing store. I guess the moral of that story was that he was a "maybeNOTman" LOL! Its been about 20 years since I last heard from him now.

monamachel1 said...

This is amazing!! I totally agree. I have had a couple of these and still love each of them!!

OK Chick said...

I know, that's why I stole the post.

Sarah- you rock!

TC said...

I think I spent an hour and a half on the phone with a maybeman last night...

Btw, I've been meaning to tell you... thanks to your post and the urging of one of my coworkers, I finally tried FiberOne bars. They're pretty good!

d.j. iverson said...

good steal! i would also like to point out that there are plenty of female counterparts to the maybeman.

Sarah said...

You've broken the blog law! I demand justice!!


I'm telling you-- the Maybe Man is UNIVERSAL. (And I'll grant that there are some Maybe Women in existence too.....but there has to be a better name for them. I'll be pondering bad rhymes all night!)